Saturday, November 7, 2015

Who Am I?



Over the summer, I was interviewed on Periscope. For those of you that don't know... I founded a group on Periscope called Mommyscopes. The group grew from daily scopes to a Facebook group... which turned into over 750 women and many new friendships.

As the founder, she wanted to find out a little more about me. I gladly obliged. Answered questions about the group, about my business and about my family...

And then she asked me something that left me speechless....

" But Who Are you?"

and I answered.. " Excuse me?"

I mean I thought we had already covered this.

"Take away the kids, the business and the wife.. WHO is Amy Wyler..."

I recapped what I already said and she rephrased the question... Then our interview ended. I don't think it went the way she wanted.

But that question bothered me. As I lay in bed that night, I kept re-playing my earlier conversation....

and I kept mentally berating myself for not answering how I should have. I was handed a beautiful moment and I blew it.

A moment that would leave most women questioning themselves and a moment that would leave many deflated.

Instead I got mad. I sat up in bed and vented to my husband.

You see ladies, this is where the world went wrong. The day we stripped womanhood away from motherhood. The day that we couldn't proudly stand up and say that Mothering IS who we are. 18 years of sleepless nights and rocking babies has intricately knit the deepest treasures of my heart.

It's the late nights of working hard at my business so I could bring those small extras to my family...

Sharing the joys of my teenagers first job and first kiss....

And falling asleep to the sounds of the same man I have shared my bed with for almost 20 years....

THIS is who I am. Without each and every moment in my life, I would not be who I am today. Removing one thread in the quilt will unravel the very beautiful pattern that took years to crochet.

I am nothing without each and every part of my life.

THAT is who Amy Wyler is....

And that is who YOU are...

We are women, beautifully defined by each delicate occasion in our life. Created with a purpose of companionship and friendship....with spirits of nurturing. There is no separating that....

Periods in our life do not define us but they change us. If only women would stop trying to change that... oh what a beautiful world that would be....

So in answer to who Amy Wyler is....

It can't be answered in one descriptive sentence, It cannot be separated from motherhood or wifehood. Who I am cannot stand alone....  but if you take the time to look at my life and all who is in my life, you will find me....

Find me on Facebook and say Hi!

11 comments:

  1. Well said and 100% truth!!! I was just talking to my 13 year old yesterday about feminism, and how we went too far for rights and lost a lot of our privilege. "And God created them man and woman", if he wanted us to be the same, then why would he have made us different??? Sorry, your post just flowed into what has been on my heart lately. God made women to be able to function in every area, without leaving another behind, and I happen to think that is beautiful!!! Thanks, as always, for being so open and honest!!

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  2. I'm so with you on this. As women, as wives and mothers, why are we expected to separate ourselves from family in order to say who we are? Being wives and mothers is a part of our story. It is a part of what/who God designed us to be. We shouldn't have to separate it. We are still individuals. We are still people with thoughts and hopes and dreams... But we are also people with a very special purpose, and it all goes hand in hand.

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  3. Oh, this just touched me to the core of my soul and blessed me! Thank you for this! Being a wife and a mommy to 3 under age 3 is who I am and I'm proud to be that! So many people try to separate it and I even started to feel a way about myself like I lost myself. This is a fresh of breath air! Thank you Amy for all you do!

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  4. Oh, this just touched me to the core of my soul and blessed me! Thank you for this! Being a wife and a mommy to 3 under age 3 is who I am and I'm proud to be that! So many people try to separate it and I even started to feel a way about myself like I lost myself. This is a fresh of breath air! Thank you Amy for all you do!

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  5. Thank you for sharing. This spoke to me and made me think about who I am. But the truth is that I am a wife and a mother. No matter how old my kids get this will never change. We shouldn't have to separate it.

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  6. Need this today. I spent a Saturday with accomplished sophisticated working women and went home like am I nothing? I can't do fancy vacations or afford lavish clothing but I went to bed with hugs and devotions with the children I love. This IS who I am. As always well said Amy Wyler!

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    1. Laurie, That is the worst. I have been there and still am sometimes. But those clothes and awards can't hug you back!!!!

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  7. Bam!!! Very well said!!! I am so glad you have decided to blog again!!!

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